I was thinking the other day about how most of us including myself allow other people to define our happiness. This has been engraved so much in us that we have actually forgotten to live.
Can’t do this or that because your boyfriend/girlfriend will not like it.
Can’t go on that road trip with those friends because your girlfriend does not like your boys.
Why do we allow our lives to be dictated by other people’s perception?
Why don’t we just drop all that crap and live for once?
Why don’t you say enough is enough and just live like your happiness depends on you?
Why allow other people who have no idea about our inner struggles tell us when it’s right to be happy.
You can be happy on your own if you wanted to. It’s just that you haven’t lived for a long time and have actually forgotten how to.
When was the last time you stopped and thought, “Hmm….I’m actually good at writing. I could do something about it?” or “I could learn something new during my free time.”
When was the last time you just stopped and thought about yourself for once?
We are so good at losing ourselves in relationships that we end up forgetting ourselves.
Our happiness is entirely dependent on the other person. If they wake up one day and decide that we are just not worth their time (which is the logic thing that is likely to happen here) we lose everything.
Our will to live, our happiness all gone and for what? Someone who never cared enough to stick to us like we have done for them?
We have created another small world that is not complete without the other person.
This is neither a good nor a healthy relationship (I know you think it is but please, wake up and smell the bacon).
It’s toxic and it will drain the soul out of you and leave you an empty shell of the person you used to be.
Become your own person and never lose yourself for someone who is just not worth it.
People come, relationships end, so what? It’s just another way of telling you that you need a fresh start.
Have something else going on in your life. Do something that you will look back five, 10 or 20 years to come and be proud of.
Don’t entrust your happiness on someone because until you do that, its the only time you will realize what true happiness is all about. 🙂
Written by Lillyanne Gathoni